Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Family, Fighting, and Friendship

"And this commandment we have from him:
whoever loves God must also love his brother. 1 John 4:21

Lyss & Kyle (1998)

Sisters and brothers.  Best friends and worst enemies...all within a five minute time frame. Even now that they don't see each other as often since Lyss spends most of her time in Oregon at college.  Yes, spring break has barely started and they are already picking on one another.

Alyssa and Kyle know how to push buttons in the blink of an eye, yet they also can be each others greatest cheerleader.  I cherish the moments when I catch a glimpse of them treating each other with a love and kindness that they would show their greatest friend.  I also love watching them laugh together, or have a conversation, especially when one is showing great concern over the others needs.

However, at this time in life, my kids claim that they are not "friends", and sometimes treat each other more like lepers, than sister and brother.  I try to convince them the importance of their relationship, and that they will need each other one day.  They will go through trials in their life where they will need someone who will stand by them through thick and thin, and love them no matter what.

They put up (and put-up is definitely the word of the day) with each other as family now, but I pray that one day they will realize the treasure they have as friends.  I pray that they will forgive the crazy things of today, and love one another unconditionally through the things of tomorrow.


I think people that have a brother or sister 
don't realize how lucky they are. 
Sure, they fight a lot, 
but to know that there's always somebody there,
somebody that's family.  
--Trey Parker

Lord, you have given us two precious children and they fill our days with much joy.  However, when they fight, are impatient with one another, and hold onto grudges, my heart breaks.  I pray Lord, that Alyssa and Kyle will live lives that are completely humble and gentle; being patient, bearing with one another in love. May they make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.  Lord, may forgiveness flow freely between one another.  Their friendship can can be a life-giving relationship that brings them much joy, but at times it will take a bit of effort.  May they each be willing to set aside hurts, fears, and anger to love one another the way that you call them to love.  Lord, you have created our family in beautiful ways, and you put Alyssa and Kyle together as sister and brother for special purposes in their lives.  May they find the true joy you have for them in this relationship.  As sisters and brothers...and as friends.
 

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